We all have a general idea of what a funeral service might look like because we’ve either attended one or seen one in a movie. Most funeral services shown on TV or film are based on what might be thought of as a traditional funeral service. However, as I began final arrangement coordination, I became aware of what might be thought of as non-traditional funeral services and realized that, given the time constraints associated with when someone passes away, these may need to be considered when creating a holistic estate plan.
I thought I would discuss some of the non-traditional service options for two reasons. First, to raise awareness of the fact that there are numerous funeral service options available to families. Second, and most importantly, when someone passes away, it starts a speedy, time-sensitive process. That said, if you or your loved ones have strong thoughts or feelings one way or the other on a type of service, you may want to think ahead and plan accordingly. It’s not uncommon to include a burial arrangement detail in a Will or Trust. For example, if a person has made preplanned arrangements, they may include those details in their Trust.
A Traditional Funeral Service typically includes a visitation or wake, a formal service, and a burial. They often involve religious traditions, such as hymns, prayers, and eulogies delivered by family or friends. The body is usually present, allowing attendees to pay their respects.
A Memorial Service is held to honor the deceased without the body present. This service can take place at any location and often includes eulogies, music, and personal tributes. It provides a space for family and friends to celebrate the life of the deceased.
In Direct Cremation, the body is cremated shortly after death without any prior services. This option is also typically less expensive than traditional funerals.
A Celebration of Life is a more informal gathering celebrating the deceased’s life rather than mourning their death. It often includes personal stories, music, and food.
Wakes and viewings are opportunities for family and friends to gather before the funeral service. A wake may include food and drinks, while a viewing allows attendees to see the body, often in a casket.
Scattering ceremonies involve the scattering of the deceased’s ashes in a meaningful location. This can be done privately or as part of a larger memorial service.
Regardless of the type of service chosen, there are a number of details that will need to be coordinated. For example, depending on when and how someone passes away, a notification process begins. Who is notified first, and what are the subsequent next steps, can be emotionally and physically challenging. Prior coordination of who will be notified and what steps you would like the different coordinating agencies to take will relieve some of the emotional and physical challenges associated with the passing of a loved one.
Please feel free to share your own experiences and lessons learned in the comment box below.
Your shared thoughts may help someone else going through a similar experience.
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Readiness Review Checklist
- P/F _____: Do you or your loved ones have strong thoughts or feelings for the type of funeral service you would want? Have those thoughts been communicated to your loved ones, or are they included in your estate plan? A funeral service is an important element for loved ones to bring closure and acceptance.
_____: Assessment Grade
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RuReady Resources:
- The Last Chapter Series Organizer
- The Last Chapter Series Readiness Review and Checklist
- The Last Chapter Series Resource List
Additional Resources:
- Remembering A Life. An affiliate of the National Funeral Directors Association, provides educational tools to help families understand the value of a funeral, plan a meaningful service, and begin the grief journey following the death of a loved one. Resources include podcasts, book club, blogs, conversation cards, and thoughtful gifts for grieving family members and friends.
Disclaimer:
The information provided in this document is informational only and does not constitute professional advice or recommendation.
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